I Couldn't Help but Wonder...

Carrie's Questions from Sex and the City

Friday, January 27, 2006


I've always loved the question frame from Sex and the City. When I was looking for a list of Carrie's questions last fall, I was surprised that I couldn't find them on the web, so I took it upon myself to start watching all the episodes and writing all the questions. As you can imagine, it was grueling work. Well, the list is finally done, and I'm happy to post them for you here. I'm planning to do a "Question of the Day" kind of thing, so check back in and chat. Thanks for surfing by!


Season 1

1.1/1 "Sex and the City"
Were women in New York really giving up on love and throttling up on power?
(Can women have sex like men?)

1.2/2 "Models and Mortals"
If models could cause otherwise rational individuals to crumble in their presence, exactly how powerful was beauty?

1.3/3 "Bay of Married Pigs"
Is there a secret cold war between marrieds and singles?

1.4/4 "Valley of the Twenty-Something Guys"
Are men in their twenties the new designer drug?…. I couldn't help but wonder, what do they see in us?

1.5/5 "The Power of Female Sex"
Where's the line between professional girlfriend and just plain "professional"?

1.6/6 "Secret Sex"
How many of us out there are having great sex with people we're ashamed to introduce to our friends?

1.7/7"The Monogamists"
In a city like New York, with its infinite possibilities, has monogamy become too much to expect?

1.8/8 "Three's a Crowd"
Were threesomes the new sexual frontier?

1.9/9 "The Turtle and the Hare"
In a city of great expectations, is it time to settle for what you can get?

1.10/10 "The Baby Shower"
As I watched Laney tear open a terry cloth baby bib with the same enthusiasm she once reserved for tearing off rock stars' pants, I couldn't help but wonder, was I next?

1.11/11 "The Drought"
How often is normal?

1.12/12 "Oh Come All Ye Faithful!"
Are relationships the religions of the nineties?

Season 2

2.1/13 "Take Me Out to the Ballgame"
What are the break-up rules?

2.2/14 "The Awful Truth"
Are there still certain things in a relationship one should never say?

2.3/15 "The Freak Show"
Are all men freaks?

2.4/16 "The Shoot Single People, Don't They?"
Is it better to "fake it" than be alone?

2.5/17 "Four Women and a Funeral"
Can a relationship bring you back to life?

2.6/18 "The Cheating Curve"
In a gravity-free world of "anything goes," what constitutes cheating?

2.7/19 "The Chicken Dance"
In a city as cynical as New York, is it still possible to believe in love at first sight?

2.8/20 "The Man, the Myth, the Viagra"
Are we willing to believe anything to date?

2.9/21 "Old Dogs, New Dicks"
Can you change a man?

2.10/22 "The Caste System"
Can we date outside our caste?

2.11/23 "Evolution"
Are New Yorkers evolving past relationships?

2.12/24 "La Douleur Exquise!"
When it comes to relationships, how do you know when enough is enough?

2.13/25 "Games People Play"
Do you have to play games to make a relationship work?

2.14/26 "The Fuck Buddy"
Were we all in fact just dating the same person over and over again?

2.15/27 "Shortcomings"
When you date someone, how many people become emotionally involved? When you sleep with someone, are you screwing the family?

2.16/28 "Was It Good For You?"
How do you know if you're good in bed?

2.17/29 "Twenty-Something Girls vs. Thirty-Something Women"
Twenty-something girls: friend… or foe?

2.18/30 "Ex and the City"
Can you be friends with an ex?

Season 3

3.1/31 "Where There's Smoke…"
Do women just want to be rescued?

3.2/32 "Politically Erect"
Can there be sex without politics?

3.3/33 "Attack of the 5'10" Woman"
Are there women in New York who are just there to make us feel bad about ourselves?

3.4/34 "Boy, Girl, Boy, Girl…"
If we can take the best of the other sex and make it our own, has the opposite sex become obsolete?

3.5/35 "No Ifs, Ands or Butts"
In relationships, what are the "deal breakers"?

3.6/36 "Are We Sluts?"
Are we simply romantically challenged, or are we sluts?

3.7/37 "Drama Queens"
Do we need drama to make a relationship work?

3.8/38 "The Big Time"
Is timing everything?

3.9/39 "Easy Come, Easy Go"
When it comes to relationships, is it smarter to follow your heart or your head?

3.10/40 "All or Nothing"
Can we have it all?

3.11/41 "Running with Scissors"
Is sex ever safe?

3.12/42 "Don't Ask, Don't Tell"
In a relationship, is honesty really the best policy?

3.13/43 "Escape from New York"
No matter how far you travel or how much you run from it, can you ever really escape your past?

3.14/44 "Sex and Another City"
When it comes to bags, men, and cities, is it really what's outside that counts?

3.15/45 "Hot Child in the City"
In today's youth obsessed culture, are the women of my generation growing into mature, responsible adults, or are we thirty-four going on thirteen?

3.16/46 "Frenemies"
Are we getting wiser, or just older?

3.17/47 "What Goes Around Comes Around"
Is there such a thing as relationship karma?

3.18/48 "Cock a Doodle Do!"
Could it be that the problem isn't them, but horror of horrors, is it us?

Season 4

4.1/49 "The Agony & the 'Ex-'tasy"
Soul mates: reality or torture device?

4.2/50 "The Real Me"
Why is it that we can see our friends perfectly, but when it comes to ourselves, no matter how hard we look, do we ever see ourselves clearly?

4.3/51 "Defining Moments"
What really defines a relationship?

4.4/52 "What's Sex Got to Do with It?"
What comes first, the chicken (the relationship) or the sex?

4.5/53 "Ghost Town"
When a relationship dies, do we ever really give up the ghost, or are we forever haunted by the spirits of relationships past?

4.6/54 "Baby, Talk is Cheap"
In matters of love, do actions really speak louder than words?

4.7/55 "Time and Punishment"
Can you ever really forgive if you can't forget?

4.8/56 "My Motherboard, My Self"
If giving a man the keys to your apartment means unlocking the door to home cooking and great sex, why were so many independent women… (computer crashes)

4.9/57 "Sex and the Country"
When does the art of compromise become comprising?

4.10/58 "Belles of the Balls"
Are men just women with balls?

4.11/59 "Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda"
As we speed along this endless road to the destination called "Who-We-Hope-to-Be," I can't help but whine, are we there yet?

4.12/60 "Just Say Yes"
In matters of love, how do you know when it's right?

4.13/61 "The Good Fight"
When it comes to relationships, what are we fighting for?

4.14/62 "All That Glitters…"
To be in a couple, do you have to put your single self on a shelf?

4.15/63 "Change of a Dress"
….do we really want these things (marriage and children), or are we just programmed?

4.16/64 "Ring a Ding Ding"
At the end of yet another failed relationship,… you have to wonder, what's it all worth?

4.17/65 "A 'Vogue' Idea"
How much does a "father figure" figure?

4.18/66 "I Heart NY"
Can you make a mistake and miss your fate?

Season 5

5.1/67 "Anchors Away"
Does that sense of adventure still flicker inside of us, or when it comes to being carefree single girls, have we missed the boat?

5.2/68 "Unoriginal Sin"
What's the harm in believing?

5.3/69 "Luck Be an Old Lady"
If we know the house always wins, why gamble?

5.4/70 "Cover Girl"
If it is instantly clear that a person, a place, or even a profession is not for you, is it better to ignore your better judgment and read between the lines, or should you judge a book by its cover?

5.5/71 "Plus One is the Loneliest Number"
Why do we let the one thing we don't have affect all the things we do have? Why does one minus a plus one feel like it adds up to a zero?

5.6/72 "Critical Condition"
When it comes to life and love, why do we believe our worst reviews?

5.7/73 "The Big Journey"
Are we the new bachelors?

5.8/74 "I Love a Charade"
Is a relationship a relationship without the zsa zsa zsu?

Season 6

6.1/75 "To Market, To Market"
When it comes to finance and dating…, why do we keep investing?

6.2/76 "Great Sexpectations"
Why is it always something?

6.3/77 "The Perfect Present"
Can you get to a future if your past is present?

6.4/78 "Pick-a-Little, Talk-a-Little"
….When does criticism that is constructive become destructive? Are there times when the ladies should just shut the fuck up?

6.5/79 "Lights, Camera, Relationship!"
Are the men of today less threatened by a woman's power, or are they just acting?

6.6/80 "Hop, Skip and a Week"
Do we need distance to get close?

6.7/81 "The Post-It Always Sticks Twice"
Do we search for "lessons" to lessen the pain?

6.8/82 "The Catch"
When did it stop being fun and start being scary?

6.9/83 "A Woman's Right to Shoes"
When did we stop being free to be you and me?

6.10/84 "Boy, Interrupted"
When it comes to matters of the heart, did we have it right in high school?

6.11/85 "The Domino Effect"
Just how dangerous is an open heart?

6.12/86 "One"
When will waiting for the one… be done?

6.13/87 "Let There Be Light"
When it comes to men, even when we try to keep it light, how do we wind up in the dark?

6.14/88 "The Ick Factor"
Have we become romance intolerant?

6.15/89 "Catch-38"
Why are we should-ing all over ourselves?

6.16/90 "Out of the Frying Pan"
Denial: Friend… or foe?

6.17/91 "The Cold War"
Without sharing your worlds, can even the hottest relationship stop cold?

6.18/92 "Splat!"
Is it time to stop questioning?

6.19/93 "An American Girl in Paris (Part Une)"
No question

6.20/94 "An American Girl in Paris (Part Deux)"
No question